There’s something about Nina the Lovebird

On Sunday morning I lost my little feathery friend, Nina the Lovebird.  She had enjoyed a n exceedingly long and good life for a Lovebird reaching around 20 years of age,

Originally Nina belonged to my mother though being an animal-lover we always had an affinity for each other.  In 2016 when the family home was sold and everyone else scattered to the winds, I was asked to look after Nina for a week or two.  In the end that was the last she saw of the rest of her immediate family and so for the last 3.5 years I gained a new member of the household, Nina… my little dragon.

I thought I would share some of the photos the exhibited Nina’s personality.  It may be hard for someone who has never had a bird before to think that they have personalities but they do.


The photo above shows Nina sticking her behind out of her cage.  Despite my keeping her cage clean, Nina quickly realised there was little sense in going to the toilet in her own house when instead she could stick her little bum out and do it in my house.

Later on she developed this rather cute quirk where she would perform a backwards moon-walk on the roof of her cage and do her business off the roof.


The photo above is perhaps my favourite photo of Nina and gets over something about the true-love nature of our relationship.  Nina never wanted to be apart from me and would like to join in wherever I was.  Your dogs and cat may try and follow you to the toilet but only your little bird is quick enough to fly past the closing door and sit on your knee when you have business to attend to.


Like most female Lovebirds and especially those that were not trained to be hand-held at an early age, Nina was very territorial and would only let you go near her when she wanted you too.  However she was totally fine in ignoring my personal-space boundaries as we have already seen.  She used to like nothing better than sitting on me and posing for the camera.  She was also a fan of Youtube, especially when Lovebirds were singing away and the sound effects of Star Trek also seem to resonate with her.



If there was one thing that Nina liked then it was food and heaven help you if you were eating and she found out as she would perch on you and walk closer and closer up your body until she virtually blocked out your mouth to intercept food directly from your hand or fork.


In the first few months of looking after Nina, I learned exactly the type of foods that she loved, namely human food.  Being a British bird, Nina naturally had a love of Indian curry, at least the varieties that us British popularised. Here she is helping herself to some of my Chicken Balti.  I always thought her eating Chicken was a little bit canabalistic but though Lovebirds like many others are famed for eating seed and some fruit, meat is also an important part of diet.  Sure they might insects in the wild but I’m pretty sure Chicken Balti seemed to be an acceptable alternative.


The above is the very first photo I took of Nina on the day I inherited her.



In this photo, Nina has gone to sleep on my lap.  I will always remember fondly her blue feet which were also warm.  She loved to go to sleep on me.  She also liked me singing to her and she would get as close as she could to my mouth and listen for 30-40 minutes, basically until I got tired or just as often, she went to sleep.


As I mentioned previously, Nina loved getting involved in everything.  Here she is one November trying to help me with my home-made wine making process.  I was always worried she would fall in something or other but she never did.  She seemed to liked the semi-fermented grape skins too.


A few months after Nina arrived, being an elderly bird she sadly had a stroke and lost some of the vision in one eye.  I thought she might not survive but she did and continued to thrive.  However she was no longer able to fly.  Now unable to get at my food even with her cage door open, she would rattle her cage doors like an angry prisoner, so much so I would have to tie them up.

Nevertheless though her days of eating directly off my plate were gone (I was relieved in some ways as who is that keen on bird feet going through their dinner?), I would instead make up a special plate for her as often as I could.

Here she is having some fresh spinach, falafel, potato salad and coleslaw.  In truth though she loved her junk food.  She adored pepperoni pizza, toast and anything in noisy plastic packaging.  She would start getting excited from the moment I would open a pantry door.

She also loved fruit and more than once I would eat in the evenings with the lights off and the television sound on quite loud hoping to eat grapes or oranges in a bit of peace and quiet but within a minute or so she became alerted of the smell.

Nina didn’t just love human food, she was a little greedy.  I would be out all day working, I would feed her her own food before I made my own, only for her to forsake that in lieu of what I was having.  Even if I then gave her some of my food, she would rattle her cage as she believed I was buying her off with titbits or second best produce.


One of her very favourite foods was my soya chocolate mousse.  From the moment she heard me peel the lid of, there was not one second of quiet until I gave her the finished pot.

You can see in the photo above how she has already licked off 99% of the chocolate residue on one side of the pot.

She would then spend maybe an hour licking it completely clean with her tiny red tongue.  Sometimes she would wander around a little like a Dalek and would always get messy foods all over her face and beak as if she were a child learning to eat.


Nina with chocolate mousse on her beak



However she would always take great care of her cleanliness and appearance and here she is after after a bath.  She spent a lot of time systematically pruning herself and keeping her feathers in perfect condition.


Once she had stopped flying, she would use her beak like a pick-axe and climb slowly up my body to get closer to me.  It took a bit of time and then it made it hard for me to walk without her falling off.  Here she is when I am trying to cook.


This is the final photo of Nina sitting on me.  It was on Christmas Day and she had the finest Christmas Dinner a Lovebird could want.  A tiny bit of everything that I had.  Turkey, sausage, potato, carrot, parsnip, stuffing, bread-sauce (which she loved), gravy, Christmas Pudding and custard as well as a few other nibbles.

Afterwards like families everywhere, we settled down to watch some television.  Myself on the sofa and Nina on my foot.

I always felt a little bad as I was something of a retirement home from Nina when no-one else wanted her.  I hope she had a good life with me.  In her final week we sang and danced together.  She had some chips from the chip-shop, some sweet potatoes, several grapes and my leftover apple and even some crumbs of gluten free chocolate brownie which if I am honest, only made her want more.

On Friday night she was very keen to get close to me so I sat on the floor with her cage door open and we messed around and chatted.  She wagged her tail to me, something she did a lot and is a Lovebird sign of happiness and flirtation.  Very unusually for her she allowed me to stroke her back.  We were doing this for about 30 minutes which is an eternity for a Lovebird as their quick metabolism means they always have to eat, drink or poop.


Nina looking sprightly and radiant a few days ago.

Normally Nina had a special chirp she made just for me when I bade her goodnight.  I’d then tell her what a beautiful girl she was and how I’d see her in the morning and that I loved her before I blew her a kiss to which she too would make a kiss noise.  On Saturday night however she was fast asleep and on Sunday morning she didn’t make her usual ‘Morning Stephen’ chirp when I opened the curtains at 7.30am though she was asleep.

At 9am, wondering why she had made a fuss about my cutlery rattling around and it being almost her breakfast, I went into the front room and she was there on the floor of the page laying very peacefully but seemingly lifeless.   She didn’t respond at all so I stroked her back for a few minutes.  She was still very warm and it seems to me that she was either dying then or had died just a few minutes earlier.

On Monday I took Nina to the Pet crematorium and in a few days I will have her ashes returned.  I have recycled all of her belongings but kept her favourite toy bird which she would snuggle up to in the day time, occasionally berate when she was angry and sleep with at night.


Nina sleeping on the roof after I got a new 5 bulb floor lamp in November.  Nina loved it and would ‘sunbathe’ in it.

As long time readers may remember, I’m not unused to having slightly supernatural occurrences in my life and this morning.  Soon after 5.30am this morning her toy bird which hasn’t uttered a sound in about 19 years let off a whistle and it has done so a few other times when I have mentioned Nina’s name or been doing activities Nina would normally get excited about.  So it seems Nina lives long and wanted me to know all is well for her even though I do and will miss her tremendously.

Incredibly as only a Lovebird with a Social Media presence and an adopted family across  southern England, the USA and India can know, Nina has been flooded with a number of messages from people she has stayed with, chatted to on the phone or simply seen online.

She was a lovely little thing and I love her so much.  I hope she felt similarly.



About Stephen Liddell

I am a writer and traveller with a penchant for history and getting off the beaten track. With several books to my name including several #1 sellers. I also write environmental, travel and history articles for magazines as well as freelance work. I run my private tours company with one tour stated by the leading travel website as being with the #1 authentic London Experience. Recently I've appeared on BBC Radio and Bloomberg TV and am waiting on the filming of a ghost story on British TV. I run my own private UK tours company (Ye Olde England Tours) with small, private and totally customisable guided tours run by myself!
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18 Responses to There’s something about Nina the Lovebird

  1. Rosemarie says:

    RIP Nina. What a sweet, special little bird. Lucky you to have shared a life with her.

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    • I’m glad you liked it. She was so full of life and I did feel sorry for her that she couldn’t fly for her last 2 years but hopefully my post shows she and I made the most of things.


  2. blantonn says:

    How sweet. So sorry for your loss, Stephen.

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  3. Marilyn says:

    Awww…Stephen….what a sweet story of remembrance of Nina!! I know you miss her!! I think about all the pets we have loved and lost over the years!! It is so hard to lose them. They are like a part of your family!! I truly hope you get a new pet bird, dog, cat or whatever real soon!! They are such good company!

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  4. Aww what a lovely tribute to Nina. And what wonderful memories xx


    • Francis says:

      Your post Stephen has truly brought out the poignancy of your loss. I too this year lost my two muscovy ducks Flip and Flop, one through disease and the other through a fox. It’s easy to gain sympathy through the loss of a dog but less so through a bird. I wonder why? When this loss is connected with loved humans it’s all the more painful. I found your elegy on Nina quite moving. We are all lives and when we lose someone part of our own selves is lost too.

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      • Thanks Francis. I think it says more about people than the animals that there are various levels of sympathy. Maybe it is a Mammals thing. But no-one can look at those photos and deny Nina was every bit as involved in the family as a dog. In fact in some ways she was more so? Dogs can’t sit on your shoulders for hours and watch your even move from head height for example. She had such spirit and a life-force just as much as a dog a human. She was in no way un-intelligent. She recognised my footsteps outside the house when I came home from work. She new lots of words and phrases. She had a personality, she could be cheeky, angry, happy, loving. There was never any doubt what she was feeling or what she wanted. I did sometimes feel sorry for her for being an old bird who couldn’t fly towards the end but who am I to feel sorry for her when her life was so rich and she had her own very dedicated human on hand for her every whim. It’s been 4 days and I still really miss her. I say Hi to her when I go past the living room door. I sneak around early in the morning and night not to wake her up. I’m quiet in the kitchen so she doesn’t nag me for food. It all happened so suddenly and its hard to comprehend for the next 40-50 years I won’t ever see her or hear her excited whistles when I come down the stairs from writing a blog as she is waiting to see her human friend who could never even fly. My life is unquestionably better for having her and it is impossible to say a little part of me hasn’t died with her.


  5. Francis says:

    Your post Stephen has truly brought out the poignancy of your loss. I too this year lost my two muscovy ducks Flip and Flop, one through disease and the other through a fox. It’s easy to gain sympathy through the loss of a dog but less so through a bird. I wonder why? When this loss is connected with loved humans it’s all the more painful. I found your elegy on Nina quite moving. We are all lives and when we lose someone part of our own selves is lost too.

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  6. She seemed like an extraordinary creature! I am glad you enjoyed each others company. Love comes in the widest forms🦜🦜🦜

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  7. Boyer Writes says:

    Stephen, I understand completely as we lost our Gracie (Golden Retriever) after having her 14 years. All God’s creatures can become like our babies. We just moved to a new house recently and just before leaving for the last time, I went out to the memorial grave where our Gracie’s ashes are buried. I talked to her and told her little spirit that we would be leaving now and not be back to this particular house…and her spirit was to “get in the truck” and go to our new place. I believe that if the “Lion will one day lay down with the lamb” as the Holy Scriptures tell us that the spirits of those we love are alive and well. Blessings from Nancy

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    • Thank-you Nancy. I entirely agree with you. I still have the ashes of my Beagle, Ben who died in 1997. Perhaps the fact that we as very different species from dogs and birds can have such loving relationships is just a tiny insight to what the future might bring.


  8. lifecameos says:

    Wonderful to see a bird remembered so well. she obviously had a wonderful life. I had cockatiels for fifteen years and they were wonderful friends. All the parrot family enjoy human friendship.

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    • Fifteen years is a good life for a small-medium sized bird. There is definitely an affinity between them and humans. Some animals don’t really connect with us but considering how different they are to people, parrots, Lovebirds and others definitely interact and see us as interactive beings.

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  9. Graham says:

    Beautiful tribute! As a rule, we don’t value our connections with other species (wild or tame) nearly enough so it’s fab to read such an intimate view of what she meant to you. She looks like a lovely little bird with bags of character. When we moved to NZ from the UK, the hardest part was rehoming our Quaker parrot (to a zoo), who we’d had for 10 years. I still miss him and the times we spent together, much like Nina and yourself.


  10. jml297 says:

    Stephen, what a wonderful tribute to a small bird with a big personality! It was beautiful to see the photos and read your memories of Nina and her antics, and it sounds as though she loved her time with you. Her personality shines through your recollections and though she will be missed, she’ll always be in your heart.

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